The psychology of Inside Outside Story
It should not come as a shock to people that they have an inside; and therefore logically there is an outside of them. A vast number of examples of both and their difference can be given. I will not waste time on making a case for the different insides of people from their outsides here, but rather the reader should assume that without question to follow this thought.
What might be more surprising is that there are two stories that people believe and follow. They believe and follow the inside story of their particular life of their personal career and where their life is going, and they also believe and follow the outside narrative of what is happening around them with others. Again a vast number of examples of both kinds of stories and their differences can be provided. I ask the reader to assume that without question and continue listening.
Now our stories, both inside and outside, can change from moment to moment as we think through our personal life and the social events in which we participate. Ideally the story we tell inside privately to our self always completely matches with the story that others believe about us in our social life. But, to be honest, i must admit, when it comes to me, that is rarely the case. Yet when it happens, it is sublime. When the role i play in the outside social story is the same role in #synchronicity with the role i am plying myself inside, then my deeds and emotions will #flow off my hands and mouth and heart with no hesitation.
It interesting to notice the effects of certain popular memes in our culture to this inside/outside story matching. For example the rationalization for the #occult (or #secrecy) in spiritual progress. Obviously #secrecy is a primary mechanism by which one’s #InsideStory becomes different than one’s #OutsideStory. Yet as indicated above this is the very mis match which opposes #flow. Which is not to say that secrecy is always bad, but rather that it is one of the fulcrums which a person can move to get the inside story to match the outside narrative so that deeds feel like flowing.
It is also intresting to notice that the popular meme, “Look within for spiritual progress” and consider that which comes thought the senses to be illusion and #Maya, has the same effect of moving the balance of inside story further away from the outside story.
It is possible for me to see the hesitations of my life to be contradictions between my #InsideStory and my #OutsideStory. As i act i either act according to the story of me that i create from inside, or i act according to the story that i understand is happening from outside of me. Where those are not the same story, i hesitate.
This #InsideOutsideStory model is a new way of seeing the interacting psychology of humans. I’m toying with it because it just seems to explain things in higher resolution. Before my model was that each of us had an internal life represented by the thoughts that we tell ourselves when our life unfolds from day to day. Then there was what happened in the world … no narrative involved … just kind of the normal concept of “what actually happens”. But then it dawned on me that I usually have two narratives going: One i get through my senses told to me by others … the other is what i tell myself internally, privately. Ideally those two narratives are identical and match and support each other. But with me, they change a lot from day to day and even from moment to moment. I can actually feel almost exactly where the two narritatives meet when i act in the world. Without that moment of recognition where i get up and do something that effects both stories, there would be nothing to this new gestalt.
This calls to mind a plot for a play. It also raise the spectrum that our language … er, English … is not well adapted to a truthful telling my inside story … the words are all wrong.
Background: Following One's Excitement (comment 79644), WE EACH OF US HAVE AN INSIDE AND AN OUTSIDE ... ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON!, #insides #outsides #InsideStory #OutsideStory #flow #LoaSwim #EffortlessPower #psychology #narrative #hesitate
An example of and intersection of #InsideOutsideStory reflected back from the media happening in #Trump’s life is written in this #nyt article: Watching ‘Fox & Friends,’ Trump Sees a Two-Way Mirror
Notice how one attacks an #OutsideStory which conflicts with an #InsideStory and calls it #FakeNews
Talk about story … Trump as a Novel: An Implausible ‘Soap Opera Without the Sex and Fun’ … which story is being written by #Trump
← pitched by this author. I wonder if he really did pitch the story … or more likely that part was made up by #nyt … #FakeNews and all of that
go back to your seat and stay in the audience until you can write in the plot … otherwise you will be confused by the drama …
← and perhaps will think it is a cartoon
See The Realist #54 (November 1964) “The Fecaphiles” with subtitles along the way: The Law, The Constipated Court, Excrement and Equal Protection Under the Law.
You get what you focus on.
Another story “The Bathroom in Budapest” by John Goodwin is introduced by an editors’s note:
Those who automatically eliminate scatology as a vehicle for socio-political satire will find this story grist for their limited mill. It first appeared in a Parisian magazine and was reprinted in the Independent nearly a decade ago.
– funny shit, eh – just like yours.
interesting story you tell here … but without high resolution publishing it doesn’t come across.
← This is all i get and had to dig it out myself … a very partial sentence … barely grabbing my attention.
I missed Lenny Bruce in SF … too bad … i would have enjoyed.
What would you sell just #54 for?
a cartoon: … xor “Eat more Prunes” 405 synonyms of Obscenity & SCOTUS settled on “appeals to prurience”.
that would take a lot of my energy and effort. me actually doing that would be a nice #OutsideStory for you … eh?
I hear only the outside story you have told me so far about the materials. So far, as far as i know, you have just told that story to me. The inside story you tell yourself about the materials is just for yourself … it does not … and if you think about it, can not … motivate me … especially if you don’t even talk about it to me. I got into it a bit when i was up there in Paradise last month but the closer i tried to hear it, the louder you barked me away. In any case i am pretty sure it will not sell books.
#btw, one thing you should know about me, ask me a direct question and i will give you a answer direct from me myself. So you can always talk to me straight. If you find that not to be the case, then please just refer me back here and be prepared to listen in detail to what i actually say back to you.
Fact is that i was only milady interested in the Lenny Bruce story of #54 … The psychology of Inside Outside Story (comment 79739) … you had barley ticked my interest. That got me thinking about how one could tickle the fancy of a collector/historian who might be motivated enough to actually buy something for a reasonable price. then I used what you said, only to me, about that, as a good example of this psychological Gestalt/model i am playing with … and i also passed that on to you for what value in that story you might notice.
Me, I’m trying to see a stage play that expresses this gestalt. That is my internal story. It does not contribute to my internal story that you out there do not hear it … nor will it stop me telling it. Yet you continually telling me on this stage of your #phooey’s about it, has introduced a general confusion in our dialog on this stage in this context. That is my story of what is happening between us now.
It might be hard for you to grock the entirety of this drama without you actually noticing the 4 distinct stories being told on this stage … and where the motivating forces in each meet.
I think many people go through life only listening to their own internal story.seth
Perhaps my “go through life” was an exaggeration. is that why you mentioned it?
It is interesting to note that one’s own internal story is louder in one’s ear than the external stories of others. That might explain this perception.
AND substitute the word story for the word self below
21:9 Devoting ourselves to what is true rather than to maintaining the self is a very uncommon use of survival. The unstoppable flow of our tendency to persist as a self can be channeled in such a way that it becomes congruent with the pursuit of a direct consciousness of our own existence. Since the true nature of Being doesn’t need to persist or be maintained (since it already is), in the end the survival principle will be undermined. Allowing ourselves to identify with the truth, and pursue it even though it is unknown, helps press our survival tendency into serving the truth rather than self. Certainly we can’t completely identify with the truth because we don’t ultimately know what it is, but we can give self-survival something to do that is consistent with the pursuit of the truth. While seeking this consciousness we can at least point ourselves in the right direction. Achieving this consciousness is the job of contemplation. The purpose of discipline is to promote freedom.
But freedom leads to infinity and infinity is terrifying. —Henry Miller
Ralston, Peter. The Book of Not Knowing: Exploring the True Nature of Self, Mind, and Consciousness (pp. 440-441). North Atlantic Books. Kindle Edition.
21:5 For example, if we take hold of the idea that self-dissolution is good—if we adopt it and believe in it—we begin to identify with it and add it to “self.” Soon we’re no longer allowing self-dissolution; what we’re engaged in is self-promotion with a twist. The “idea”—and any action that manifests from the idea—is itself not self-dissolution. It is just self-mind generating more new ideas to pursue what’s seen as a self-serving end—to get rid of the “self” so that “I” can become more conscious.
Ralston, Peter. The Book of Not Knowing: Exploring the True Nature of Self, Mind, and Consciousness (p. 439). North Atlantic Books. Kindle Edition.
And #btw, i can see the same effects in others, for example. tells me what belief he has, and i hear what myself and others say about him. Find a person who tells the same story about himself as you yourself tell about him and you will have found a person who has dissolved their self … at least in relationship to you.
#InsideOutsideStory #ego #selfie #Egoo
… well, #IDoNotKnow what #PR believes … maybe you could ask him.
Our self, or “ego”, IS the beliefs we hold about our selves.seth
Anyway I would include all that i feel about myself also in my sweeping statement. And don’t forget i have to use English to express this proposition here and in such languages the signs can become switchd around between different people thinking about the same thing. For example i hear thunder, you see lightening, and then i say, “OMG that was the same thing”. So best not to get tripped up and think there is a disagreement when all there is is just the different manners in which we talk with our signs.
#btw i have noticed how when i tell a story to sombody about themselves which exactly matches the story they tell me about themselves, they frequently light up with joy. I notice that especially with people the more intimately i know them. it’s the old, “She really gets me!” grock popularized by our culture in movies etc.
one’s “true nature” which is be ing is not separated into different stories. That is just something that we humans do and come to call its manifestations our self or our “ego” … it is beauty in the eyes of the beholder.
Being refers to your true nature, and this nature is not reflected in or known within the experience of self,#PR
To grock the paradox, for example try to understand #Trump’s tweets using the mind set of a liberal … they will never make any sense … but get into the #InsideStory of a Russian Oligarch or a rich man who cares nothing for those outside of his domain, even traditional American values … and suddenly they make total sense. Can you see the paradox of reconciling thoughts in different mind sets?
So the one true story of be ing, of what is happening, even including what i am experiencing, may not compute in the story of just me living my life from the inside out. Things may not match up. Yet i am actually acting in both.
I would write that thought …
“Being is the acting, self is the script … yet maybe we don’t need no stinking script”seth
Here “script” and “story” are referring to the same thing. Being is not a script or story. It just does not need that extra level of representation. Your sentence confuses that creating a paradox only in the language where none actually exists in what happens.
Scaramucci: There’s "probably some level of truth" to Trump’s claim 3-5M voted illegally in election. There’s no evidence to support that. pic.twitter.com/wcHxpVzX2c— Kyle Griffin (@kylegriffin1) July 21, 2017
What works: A more successful approach with Trump is a more conversational, anecdotal style with lots of references to him — his theories and beliefs, things he has said in the past. Dina Powell, the deputy national security adviser, has been especially adroit at this: She gets the same place McMaster would go, but does it in a personal, leisurely style that engages the boss.